Tag: Child Psychology

Young Lives, Heavy Pressure: Listening to What Our Students Are Carrying

Trigger warning: this post discusses suicide and self-harm. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services or a mental health helpline immediately. In Pakistan, national helplines and crisis support services are available to offer confidential support.

In recent months, we have seen a painful pattern repeating itself across Punjab: university students, bright, young people who should be building futures, are taking desperate steps or attempting to take their lives. These are not isolated tragedies; they are a mirror reflecting pressures that many families do not see clearly until it is too late. Recent reporting from Lahore and elsewhere has linked some of these incidents to academic pressure, failed relationships, and family conflicts, and universities and families alike are asking hard questions about what went wrong. (The Express Tribune, AAJ TV)

As a parent, it is natural to react with shock and guilt: ‘Kiya mein jaan sakta tha? Kiya mein pehlay qadam utha sakta tha? (Could I have known? Could I have acted sooner?) Those are painful but familiar questions. We also need to step back and look more critically at the systems surrounding our children, at what we ask of them, what schools expect, and how families respond when a child shows signs of pain. This is not about assigning blame to any single person. It’s about noticing patterns and changing them.

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Helping Teens Breathe: Supporting Adolescent Mental and Emotional Well-Being

I often find myself pausing at the school gates, watching groups of teenagers walk in, some laughing, some silent, some with headphones plugged in, all carrying invisible loads on their shoulders. As an educator and parent, I can’t help but wonder: What kind of world are they growing up in?

It’s a world that expects them to excel, to fit in, to stand out, and to do all of that gracefully, all before they even understand who they truly are.

In writing this reflection, I wanted to look beyond test scores and report cards, and into the hearts of adolescents navigating their mental and emotional worlds. Whether in the busy school corridors of Karachi or the diverse classrooms of London, many young people share the same quiet struggle balancing their dreams with the weight of expectations.

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Self-Disgust And Borderline Personality Disorder Among Teens

New Research Highlights Self-Dissatisfaction in Adolescents as A Possible Precursor To BPD

Recently, I had a conversation with a former student who is now in her second year of medical school. She shared her career goals, which seemed promising, but then her mood shifted. She expressed ongoing dissatisfaction with her life and self, saying things like, “I don’t like how I am or how my life is going… It’s not what I expect… nobody understands me… I messed up my life… in fact, I have no life.” I listened patiently and tried to calm her as she began to open up. This encounter left me reflecting on why self-dissatisfaction develops and its impact on lives.

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Why Do Children Need Encouragement to Become Original Thinkers?

Researchers emphasise that originality is essential for children in all life fields, particularly in times of distress. Last week, a student waited after class and spontaneously asked, “Do I have a unique mind?” I paused before gently asking what prompted her question. She thoughtfully replied, “Sir, I think I am a good student,” rolling her eyes, “but do I have the kind of mind that can generate new and unique ideas? Or am I destined to spend my life listening to what other creative people say?” I reassured her, “There is no need to worry. Everyone feels this way sometimes. I even feel that my thoughts are copied occasionally, and that is perfectly normal. It does not diminish anyone’s value.” She smiled, and after further talk, we ended our meeting. This conversation, however, left me considering: Does originality truly matter when valuing ourselves or others?

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